Dealing with rejection
Rejection can come in many forms during the stage of dating. It could be your date telling you in your face after the third date that he thinks you are “not the right one”. Or that he announced on Facebook that he is in a “It’s complicated” relationship – which, by the way, doesn’t involve you. Or he simply vanished without a trace, or even a text message. Any message.
If you are rejected, it is natural to be upset, angry and put the blame on yourself. The reality is this: it is usually the other party’s problem, not yours. He might have his own demons to fight. Or perhaps he thinks that it is not going to work between the both of you, but is not willing to talk about it. The best thing we can do is to face reality and move on. Keep things in perspective by focusing on the many positive aspects of your life. Know that you are worthy and deserving.
The fear of rejection cripples us from moving on. It stops us from approaching someone we really like. Confidence is the only cure to rejection. Engage in fun activities and positive thinking. If you feel good about yourself, you’ll be able to recognise the great truths about yourself too. The more confident you are, the more at ease you are with yourself and the better you will be able to cope with most forms of rejection.
One more thing, if you are not at the receiving end of rejection, you may be someone rejecting others. If that is the case, be honest. If you are not going to call, admit it. Request to leave the date there and then politely. When you lie to others, their feeling of rejection is compounded.
Another interesting facet of rejection is that there are people out there who will try to reject you so they themselves are not rejected. It’s a kind of defense mechanism. So keep that in mind if someone rejects you.